One of the most puzzling questions I ever was struck with, in which someone asked me. As much as I am not on the dating scene, I always ponder questions relating to relationships and how people interact and connect.
The first question, how does a busy person have time? I know there is like some many dating apps and networking events, but if you are so busy how do you create a valuable bond or connection? Must someone flash you with things you desire the most? But how do you attract a stranger? You know nothing of the face, body, smile that popped up on your screen or smart phone. So how?
This goes for both men and women this question. I feel people think they have the time to do it all. Multi-tasking is not great work or action. Focus and accomplishing goals step by step is a more plausible thing to achieve.
For me, I am a serial planner, and time manager so making time is not a problem to me. I just push forth time to things that are meaningful and have a certain reasoning. I can clear my schedule for a day if we are to do something, but not to just do nothing. It’s unproductive and a waste of time and proper reason for someone who believes in adding value and worth the almost all things that they do.
So again, how do busy women or men date?
Maybe they don’t but they try. Maybe they are unaware of the micro feelings satisfaction because they feel they are really trying so, they continue in this epic cycle, not knowing months have passed and no full results. So why try? Well, loneliness is a big problem in our world today. Do people know how to slow down anymore?
I love many things. I have had love in my life. I have been blessed to have had love, even if I had lost it. But the best thing about loving someone is loving them honestly. Love from the heart and what is true. Have ever encountered love?
Sometimes we do lust for others. Many times our mind play tricks on us. But real love, true love, always stay solid. You don’t have to always be with the one you love, for love has many layers to it and what that love means to both persons. But love truthfully and please try to not interfere in someone’s love or take someone for granted or use them.
Be open, put it all on the table. If it’s not meant to be, then it’s not meant to be. Live on and love may find you than you trying to find it.
I am sorry but I have a bone to pick with the women on the world. If one of you or a bunch of you are reading this right now, I am definitely talking to you. Ok, let me get this disclaimer part out-of-the-way. If you complement your husband, boyfriend, son, brother, or even church brother, that’s not who I am talking about. That is what you are supposed to do already plus if you have love in your heart it is somewhat expected and appreciated, also I bet you get compliments back from them also.
I am talking about the average everyday Joe of a guy you see at book store, outside, at the gym, or even at the supermarket. They are who would love to hear something nice and decent for once. I know guy are always hollering in at you and even taking it to another level being disrespectful and vulgar, but not all men are the same. You can’t judge all men based on the random “NOOB” on a man you see on the street with their pants down, drinking, and cursing, while yelling out or starting out a conversation with, “What’s up shorty?”, “Hey you have a boyfriend, because I want you…(without getting to know you first or striking up a good enough decent opener like, Hi or Hello, My name is ….),” or even “Hey you got a fat butt or big boobs, I want to take you out.”
Although a man is a very visual creative and the primate side of us does tend to jump out at times, where are the efforts of a woman to at least go out of her way and try to just be a nice person. Even if it comes with harsh terms for a woman would then say if they do compliment a guy, he is automatically going to think she wants him or this and that. I go back to my previous statement, not all men are the same. If that is true then surely you should learn how to upgrade your speech and language, and respond firmly and kindly. A response such as, “I am sorry, I spoken for, I just wanted to give you a man of the world a bit of credit for being decent.”, or “I am glad you enjoy my approach by actually giving you a compliment I think you deserve or I just wanted to say, but I am ok, thank you.” There are many ways to say something back nicely, or if he persist, you can jump right back into your natural defense mechanism of blowing them off, cursing, ignoring or etc.
But please ladies of the world, do your part and try something new today, and give more compliments. I don’t say it has to be everyday, but at least a natural kind compliment per week would actually make a guy feel welcome and appreciated in the world. And if you are somehow in a bad neighbor or not many good men to give compliments to, then get out of your environment and go exploring a bit, and I bet you will see a guy worthy of a nice compliment.
Be nice and contribute.
What do you think of this post? If you were to reflect on your past, could you really say you actually honestly gave an enough to compliment a guy naturally without even wanting him?
Thanks for reading, my so-called Public Service Announcement, slash rant, I just want to make the world a better place, and yes indeed a man have written this post.